My husband and I stuck it out until the children were grown, but it's been two years now since the divorce and I'm beginning to wish I'd tried harder to keep us together. No one ever told me how hard and lonely it is. I don't have a question, but maybe my experience will help someone.


God gave marriage to us — and one reason is because He knew exactly what you’ve discovered: Life can be difficult and lonely if we can’t share it with someone. After God created Adam, the Bible says, He declared, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him” (Genesis 2:18).I too hope your experience will help someone who is like you were — assuming their marriage is going to end, and that everything is going to be better once it’s over. But this isn’t necessarily true. More often than not, once their marriage ends, the relief they feel at first gives way to the harsh reality of economic hardship, loneliness and insecurity.Not all marriages can be saved, I know — but wouldn’t it be better for a husband and wife to do everything they can to try to save it?

At one time, their love burned brightly; what caused it to die? Have they forgotten the Bible’s truth that “Love is patient, love is kind” (1 Corinthians 13:4)? Has selfishness crowded out love?The most important thing we can do to safeguard our marriages, however, is to commit them — and our whole lives — to Jesus Christ. God loves us, and when we put Him at the center of our lives, He begins to change us from within. May this become true for you, as you open your heart and life to Christ.