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I was hoping that if I got pregnant my boyfriend would decide to marry me, but instead, he suddenly moved out last week and I don't even know where he is. What should I do now? Please help me, because I'm so confused. Should I get an abortion?


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You’ve probably heard the old saying that “two wrongs don’t make a right,” and it’s certainly true in this case. It was wrong for you to live with your boyfriend and get pregnant outside of marriage, but it also would be wrong for you to end the life of the little child living within you. God has said, “Before I formed you in the womb I knew you” (Jeremiah 1:5).

I realize this goes against the trend of our modern age—an age that has increasingly turned away from God and forsaken His standards of right and wrong. But when we abandon Him, we end up paying a terrible price—a price of guilt and instability and broken relationships. Tragically, this is what’s happened to you, and I see no easy or painless solution.

What advice would I give you? First, my prayer is that you will turn to Jesus Christ and give your life to Him. You may never have given God a single thought, but you’ve been in His thoughts every moment of your life, because He made you and loves you. Seek Christ’s forgiveness, and then ask Him to help you follow His path instead of the one you’ve been on.

Also ask Him to help you do what’s best for your unborn child. Prayerfully explore every God-honoring option (including adoption). In addition, seek out a church where you’ll not only feel accepted, but you can also grow in your faith.

Regardless of your sin, God can forgive you. Make peace with Him today.